For those with big questions about death, dying and funerals, having someone to talk to can be invaluable. But how do you start those conversations, and with whom? GraveTalk was an idea launched through the Church of England to do just that.
On a wet Saturday afternoon in August some 30 members of the congregation gathered in the hall for tea, cakes and two hours of ‘GRAVETALK’ – organised by Nicki.
Each table was given 3 cards with relevant topics for discussion. People could discuss or not as they choose. Some questions were directly related to funerals but others where a sideways look like ‘ What is your favourite possession and who would you leave it to?’ or ‘How would you like to be remembered?’ Some people had already made plans or part plans for their funeral but, of these, not all had told anybody where to find the list of their wishes!
There is a lot to be decided including:
- Burial or Cremation
- Religious or Non-Religious Service
- Music, Hymns, Readings from Scripture, Poems, Eulogy etc etc.
- Is there to be a Reception after?
- If Cremated where do you want your remains to go?
- If you don’t have a Funeral Plan who will pay?
There followed a talk by Andrew Purves from one of our local Funeral Directors. He gave an informative talk about their service and the different options available from type of coffins to type of Services, from local Crematoriums to possible Burial Sites, etc.
Hopefully it got those who attended to think what they would really like to happen after they died. Then to write a list and let their family and/or lawyer and/or priest know where the list is kept.